ROMANTIC
ENLIGHTENMENT

Dear Friends and Fellow-Couples,

 

It's not your fault if you are struggling in your love relationship. Many of us have "bad code" in our limbic brains and nervous systems that gets activated with intimacy.

 

And yes, I know, you wish there were MORE intimacy, if only your partner would just... (fill in the blanks)!

 

ROMANTIC ENLIGHTEMENT is the name I've given to the work I have done for much of the last 50 years (I'm 70-something) to understand, heal and upgrade love relationships—both my own (see below), and those of my clients and students. I only do this intensive and profound work on a weekly basis with a few select, qualified, committed couples.

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HOW IT WORKS:

After 3 initial introductory sessions (one for each person and one together), there is the opportunity for either:

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1) The Romantic Enlightenment Private Intensive (online via zoom)

This is a 30-session (within max of 3 months ) no-exit, no leaving-each-other (or even threatening to leave) contract and commitment, during which you will work with me individually and/or as a couple every week.

(We will decide on the schedule mostly from my discretion as I get to know you and what is needed).

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2) The Accelerated, In-Person Romantic Enlightenment Private Super-Intensive.

For qualified couples, who have both worked with me, and completed the 3-session introductory phase, there may be an opportunity to come to my iWAVE Center in Colorado (in a gorgeous mountain setting outside Boulder), for 3-4 intensive days (20 intensive in-person hours). You will have your own large, private apartment.

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This Super-Intensive is not for the faint of heart. It may feel like a journey, but the only medicine will be the organic chemicals and energies  you were born with, awakened by various methods, including wave-breathing and other iWAVE techniques. I will be directing the process intuitively —it's not a cookie-cutter program— based on my decades of experience doing this work.

 

The Super-Intensive will  include very powerful, body-based practices as well as enlightened spiritual perspectives AND deep know-how in psychological and relationship-dynamics. You will feel the transformation in yourself and your relationship emerging from inside you, and between you, a couple who really love each other, but are struggling.

 

You will unravel your defenses together very fast, although at certain points you may not like me or your partner, as your ego holds on to its deep, limbic structure that was innocently created to defend you in childhood, but may now be running and sabotaging your intimacy experiences. 

 

 The goal is to get you back to In. Love. Together. (which is more than just "in love"). 

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BOTH PROGRAMS ARE $9700, PAYABLE IN ADVANCE AND NON-REFUNDABLE, INCLUDING (as mentioned) A NO-EXIT CONTRACT.

 

There are many ways that I am different from most couples counselors (and I didn't graduate from my Psychology degree in the 70s, because of a spiritual awakening). So my degree is "MSU" (Making Stuff Up) —which I made up!

 

• I'm not a licensed therapist, although I have trained hundreds of licensed health professionals—including psychotherapists, psychiatrists, doctors etc.—in my methodologies for 40 years since 1983, when I gave trainings in hypnotherapy before it was a "thing."

•  I'm not just working with you to "see if you should be together," in some kind of aloof neutrality!  As a mega-empath, I'm not psychic, but you will find that I "get" your situation quickly, and will passionately work to help you disentangle the projections, wounds and miscommunications that have gotten you.... well... where you are!

• This relational part of my larger work (called Romantic Enlightenment because it is actually about moving individually and as a couple towards greater and greater embodied, felt, spiritual  awakening).

• I'M MORE LIKE "THE REF" THAN A TALK THERAPIST LISTENING TO YOU GUYS DOING THE SAME OLE THANG! (Watch the movie "The Ref")

• In other words, this is iWaveTherapy, which includes all kinds of methodologies, from breath, to deep regression, to deep belief-shifting that is more like surgery than therapy. All done in a safe container of kindness, love and no BS!

• As you may have gathered, it's not the kind of couples' "talk" therapy where two people argue while I clock in the hours. I'm extremely directive and the transformational effects are fast-moving. Many couples come to me after years and years of talk therapy, both individual and with each other or other partners.

• In my work, talking and intellectually understanding your patterns is only part of a myriad of methods for really transforming them, bringing your mind, body, emotions, spirit, nervous system, and energy fields into the game.

• This is my iWAVE methodology, which you can read about elsewhere on this site. It is similar in power to what people now call "medicine," but the only drugs involved are your own brain and body's endogenous chemicals, awakened into their true potential of bliss and power.

• in other words, iWAVEwork  is very integrated, deep, fast, and effective. You will probably feel a shift in the first session, although it has taken you (and your relationship) time to get into the loops and patterns that they may now be in, and it will take time to create sustainable shifts and gain the skills and courage to live them, day to day.

• In my practice with couples, relationships that have been stagnant for decades are moving to the next level.

 

WHY "ROMANTIC ENLIGHTENMENT"?

The work is called "romantic enlightenment" because it's about bringing enlightenment into your romance, AND romance into your enlightenment—aka your journey of falling in love with your True Self. 

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PAYMENT:

Payment is in advance. For the first 3 introductory sessions, you pay full price, $450/session hour = $1350.

 

Then —if we decide to move forward to the committed 30-session Romantic Enlightenment Intensive Dive   (or the Super-Intensive here in Colorado described above, ask me more).— the 1st 3 sessions will be retroactively discounted  and included in the 9700.

 

How the online program works is that each week, you will each have a personal session with me, and every 1 or 2 weeks, a joint session (this is the flexible part, as I may potentially advise more or less couple sessions at different phases). 

 

So—how it works: single and joint sessions with some flexibility as explained above. The discounted price for the Intensive is $9,700 (this is $323/session and a $2000 discount from the per-session rate!)—paid up front, no refunds, no exit strategy! Yay! You are committing to breaking through to a new level of love and harmony in your relationship, however that looks in your souls' journey.

 

I only work with a few couples at a time, so there may be a waiting list. Call me to discuss any and all of this. 

 

Contact me to chat and see if we qualify to work with each other.

415-747-4509  (I'll call back soon).

Text or email: katiedarling1@me.com

 

P.S. I have learned my own lessons well. I recently married Greg Andrews (see below) and am living in enlightened romance and real LOVE.  

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